January 23, 2020
Her pain was hidden behind her smile..[Hello Counselor ENG,THA/2018.9.17]

Her pain was hidden behind her smile..[Hello Counselor ENG,THA/2018.9.17]

“Please Help My Daughter.” Be my daughter for today. Okay, Mom. I can see your father in you. (Imagining a husband that never existed) Hello. I’m a housewife who lives a busy life. I had our youngest child at an old age, over 40. I have a 16-year-old daughter, a 10-year-old son and a 5-month-old son. I am now a mother of three. I do house chores and look after my kids all day. But it’s so hard. But I have someone who’s like a savior to me. Daughter. “Brother. Are you done with your homework?” – To the 5-month-old son. / – “I’ll watch you.” Waaah! Waaah! “Oh, are you hungry?” I’m your mother. My daughter babysits her brother well and helps me with house chores, too. But I started to face a problem a week ago. “Daughter. Can you help me?” “No.” (Out of the blue?) “You think I’m not tired because I always smile? It’s so hard for me, Mom.” She’s exhausted. “I just want to die.” Oh my. (Oh no!) I was shocked by her unexpected response. But the next day… “I’ll take care of your brother now. Let me know when it’s too tough for you.” “I’m fine, Mom. I’ll take care of him.” My daughter says she’s fine now. But why am I so worried? I want to know how she really feels. Please help me out. How do you feel about this? I can relate to it. Really? Why? My father was sick when I was young, so I had to take charge of the family. I have two younger brothers. I had to nurse him as I traveled back and forth to train as a singer. I had to take care of my brothers, too. Did you get upset once in a while? It came to me when I had time to think. I would get lost in deep thougths from time to time. How old were you then? I was 16. – Right around the daughter’s age. / – 15-16. You could talk to the daughter today. Let’s bring the mom out now. Please come on out. (Who’s concerned about her daughter?) JR, Ren. Escort her. (Lee Hyeona) (Welcome) Ever since the youngest was born, your daughter has been helping you out? Yes. The baby cries when I’m not with him. I bet. So I can’t do any house chores. When my daughter comes home, she babysits while I do backed-up house chores. What about your husband? He leaves home early and comes home late. So I rely on my daughter a lot. Does your daughter do it voluntarily or do you ask her to help first? I asked her to help me many times. I have so much to do around the house, so I tell her, “Babysit him for a little bit.” But that turns into 30 minutes to an hour and more. Anyone who has children at home would know how hard it is to take care of a baby. In the past, when people asked, “Would you rather farm or watch a baby?” They said that they would rather farm. Did your daughter start to have a hard time only after the baby was born? Or has she always been helping you out? My husband had a hard time in the past, so I got a job when my other son was 4. Since then, my daughter would take her sick brother to the doctor by herself on a bus… So it’s been going on for years. That’s when it started. Who’s the real mother, huh? That’s why people call her, “Young mom.” – To your 16-year-old daughter? / – Yes. They say, “You’re their younger mom.” There’s a big age gap between your kids. Something good must’ve happened, huh? I’m just curious. Did you discuss having a baby with her? No. We were surprised, too. It happened out of the blue for the daughter. She cried a lot when I got pregnant. Why? Because she was happy? No, because she was upset. She knew that she’d have to babysit. (It was unexpected for me, too. I’m sorry…) Did she really say she wants to die? She would do the laundry on her own or clean the house with a vacuum cleaner for me. She’s such a good girl. She was always smiling, so I never thought it was tough for her. Then suddenly she said, “It’s too hard. I want to die. I want to jump off a building.” (Shocked) She got tested and was diagnosed with depression. I asked, “Why didn’t you tell me about this?” She said, “I know how busy you are. If I told you, what could you even do for me? How can you resolve it anyway?” She’s so mature. That’s what she said, so I’m frustrated and heartbroken. Let’s talk to the daughter now that we’ve heard your side of the story. (Everyone is curious about the good daughter) She’s so pretty. Hello. Hello. How do you feel? Your mother sent us her concern. At first, I regretted it a little. I can see that my family tiptoes around me. Mom doesn’t ask me to babysit my brother as often. So I feel bad for her. You think you made a big mess? She’s so considerate. You said that it’s hard to babysit your brother? Is it that hard? Once I’m done with school, I get home at around 8 p.m. That’s why I start to babysit my brother. When I’m about done, it’s 10 p.m. But he doesn’t go to sleep right away. He also wakes up 3-4 times during the night, so I don’t get to sleep fully. You’re right. Is everything about babysitting him hard? What’s the hardest part? He cries when he’s lying on the floor. If I pick him up too much that day, then when I’m asleep, my knee hurts like it’s being hammered. Older women usually feel that pain. Your left knee? Or your right knee? My left knee. (Why didn’t you tell me?) What’s the best method to play with the baby or to put him to sleep? I put him on the floor and sing pop songs to him. He likes to listen to pop songs? Pop songs instead of lullabies? You sing pop songs when you put him to sleep? Imagine that Minsang is a baby. He’s cute. (A super baby) I don’t think she can. The baby is crying. What do you sing for him? Recently, I sang Red Velvet’s “Power Up.” That is a really new song. “Power Up”? What about children’s songs? “My Brother with Curly Hair.” ♪ My brother has curly hair ♪ ♪ My brother with curls ♪ He might hate the song. He might prefer to have straight hair. You’re right. If it’s this hard to babysit your baby brother, why did you tell your mom no and then change your mind the next day? I got mad and relieved stress in that moment. But then I started to feel guilty. – You felt bad for your mom? / – Yes. She’s such a nice girl. I regretted not being more patient. Why don’t you want to burden your mom? Mom got weak after her second pregnancy. I’ve seen her sick many times. I was afraid that she might’ve gotten weaker since she gave birth at an older age. She’s such a good girl. So even though you wanted to talk to Mom, you didn’t because you didn’t want to burden her even more since she’s already having a hard time? Then how do you relieve stress? I just endure it on my own. You shouldn’t do that. People over there in the audience are crying. They can’t stop crying. Are you going through a tough time? Is every concern this sad these days? – Has it always been like this? / – No. I… I suffer from Meniere’s disease. What is that? (An ear disorder) I get dizzy, nauseous, vomit, and get severe headaches. I get sick for 2-3 days and I’ve ended up in the ER several times. My amniotic fluid ruptured early and I gave birth to our youngest at 36 weeks. My daughter witnessed everything and that’s why she’s so worried about me. Where did you hear that you had depression? We did classmate counseling at school. I checked off the things that applied to me and the result came out to be depression. I get very lonely when I’m alone. Before I go to sleep, I feel like I want to give up on my life. I thought about suicide at times. Recently, I’ve been crying myself to sleep. It’s been a while since I’ve slept well. (Concerned) Sunmi, you seemed to be shocked. She shouldn’t be going through this at her age. She gets enough stress from school, but she’s more stressed because of house chores. Imagine how tough it must be for her. You should’ve talked to your mom from the start. “Mom, I don’t feel too well these days.” I said, “It’s too tough for me.” Dad told me, “You don’t babysit your brother that much.” He should’ve complimented you. Dad is the problem. Did you ever have an outburst of rage? – About a week ago. / – A week ago. I was holding my baby brother and he threw up on me twice. So I got aggravated and yelled at him. “Why are you throwing up on me?” Dad said, “What are you doing to him that he’s only throwing up on you?” It’s your dad again, huh? Dad is the problem. I was upset for several days. Then Mom came to me and said, “Why do you look so upset? It’s making everyone uncomfortable. Why are you acting this way?” That’s when I told her about being depressed. I think we should talk to her dad now. (Yes, let’s see who it is) (If he were my dad…) Run. Now is the time. Run. Sir. – Do you know how old she is? / – Hello. She’s only 16 years old. I… (She’s too emotional to talk) Let me ask instead. I’m afraid she’ll lose fans if she speaks up. Is what your daughter said true? Yes. Do you remember saying those things? My youngest son was crying. “Your brother seems to hate you. He only throws up on you.” I was joking when I said it. You might’ve been joking, but… If it was a joke, she should’ve laughed. – She should’ve laughed. / – That’s a joke. Did the 5-month-old baby laugh at least? Someone must laugh for it to be a joke. I thought she was whining. When I was young, I would farm in the field with my parents, work all day and study all night without sleeping. I thought she should be able to handle this much work at her age. She wasn’t born in your times, sir. Then your ancestors would say, “In our times, we were chased by Japanese soldiers and fought for independence.” If you go further back, it’s the Joseon Dynasty. (I was wrong) How do you feel now? You must’ve been quite frustrated by your dad. Yes, I was upset. But I tried to be more understanding because… She always tried to be more understanding. We recently went on a family trip. I asked him to make a heart when we posed for a picture. He couldn’t do it. Why not? – Like this. / – Oh, like this? He couldn’t do this? Why not? He hurt his arm years ago and it didn’t heal properly. Then couldn’t you make a heart like this? I wanted to do this. This isn’t easy to do. (He formed a somewhat different heart) There were times when my husband had to go away for a while for his job. There was a time when he was sick. So my daughter has always helped me and comforted me. – So… / – She did. She’s the gem in the family. You thought she was just whining and didn’t think much of it, right? She would always smile and help me. That’s why… (Her pain was hidden behind her smile) (Why didn’t I see it sooner?) She has so much responsibility, which breaks my heart. She thinks she has to take care of all of us. She said, “I’ll be 30 when Hwanhui is 15. I’ll have to pay for his tuition then.” She tells me that at times. Oh my. I said, “That’s for us to worry about, not you.” She said, “You’ll be older by then.” That is why her dream is to have a stable job. You must’ve been upset when you heard that. Yes. – She’s too realistic, right? / – Yes. It looks like the happiest person in this family is the middle brother. Do you have any thoughts in your head? He’s only 10 years old. Brother. You’re sleepy, right? What’s your name? Lee Ha-eon. Lee Ha-eon? – Are you happy? / – Yes. That’s good! At least you’re happy! That’s good. Do you know why you’re here today? Yes. To resolve my sister’s concern. It’s her concern? Yes. – Not yours? / – No. Do you have any concerns at home? No. (How cute) Were you happy when your brother was born? Or were you surprised? I was happy. Why? I stopped being the youngest in the family. He thinks of it as a promotion. You can make him run errands in the future. (Smile) (We got you!) He smiled. That was funny. (Oh, my head) Younger siblings are like that. He imagined himself ordering his brother around. “Your life is over now.” Can’t you look after your brother, too? I do when my sister isn’t home. Oh. How? Do you change his diapers? I lie down next to him and talk. (Talking at eye-level as childcare) (Oh my goodness) “You’re my brother. You’ll run my errands in the future.” (He thinks it’s funny, too) How cute. You want to meet their youngest brother, right? – The 5-month-old? / – Yes. He’s here? – Where’s Hwanhui? / – He’s so cute. (Oh my) It’s Hwanhui. Oh my. Let me hold him. Come here. – He’s so cute. / – He’s so cute. (Look over here, too) He looks just like his dad. Oh my goodness. How do you take care of him? We can tell by the way you hold him. Oh my. She’s good. (I love being in my sister’s arms) You said you sing for him, too? (Bending her knees for her brother) You’re moving up and down. Why do you do that? He cries if I stand still. He does? Do you sing to him when he cries? Do you sing to him? Can you show us? When he lies down, it’ll be your turn, Ha-eon. (Oh) Get ready. ♪ My brother has curly hair ♪ He seems to like it. ♪ Dad calls you “Lee Hwanhui” ♪ He likes it. ♪ Mom calls you “My puppy” ♪ ♪ I call you “Our prince” ♪ Ha-eon, come over here. Show us how you watch your brother. I’m curious to see what he does. (How effective is his whispering?) Be careful. How cute. Lie down. Lie down. Look at him. (What happened?) (I am) (On my way to talk to you) (I’m the only one who knows what you want) (I’m your brother…) (Nope – Splat) How do you talk to him? (He’s feeling awkward) (I can’t look) (They are going to talk now?) Talk to him. (She automatically runs over) Talk to him. Why aren’t you doing anything? He’s wailing. He cries like this? She ran over when he started to cry. Don’t think about your brothers first. Make yourself the first priority from now on. Is there anything that you want to do? Don’t worry about your family. No. Are you in a financial bind? Since my husband is the only one who works things aren’t easy. But she shouldn’t worry about it. Last year in August we finished paying the debt from opening the gym. They paid off the debt. You should let her know these things. Did you know that they paid off the debt? – I didn’t know. / – Why didn’t you tell her? You should tell her these things. But moms never do. You should tell your kids these things. – You heard that, right? / – Yes. You don’t have to worry about financial problems. What do you think about that? When I tell them, “I’m having a hard time,” they say, “I am, too.” That’s why I always thought I should help out. When she says, “I’m having a hard time,” I said, “It’s even harder for me.” “Mom, I’m going through puberty.” I said, “I’m going through menopause.” – She can’t win. / – She never gets a break. I can understand Dad, Mom, the daughter and the baby. But not the middle one. He’s the happiest one. This is what I think. I went through my 20s and 30s. I’ll be 40 soon. Throughout my life, I can see that my ability to handle things improved. It feels like you treat your daughter like you two are on the same level. Her daughter? You think you two are equal, so you rely on her and whine to her. It might be tough for both of you, but she can’t control herself as well as you can. Let me ask you this bluntly. Do you rely on your husband more or your daughter? To be honest, I rely more on my daughter right now. I’m worried that my husband will get sick again, so I’ve started to keep him out of things. “Dad is tired, so you look after the baby.” Did you know about this? That she’s relying more on her daughter? I feel bad. If you think it’s overwhelming for your daughter, you should treat her more nicely. I’m not good at that. That’s ridiculous. (Why can’t you do it for your suffering daughter?) I’m not good at expressing love with words. People say children learn through our actions. But you or Mom never complimented her. She never had anyone to rely on. Tell your parents what you want from them. Particularly, what do you want from your dad? He buys me what I like and gives me allowance at times. But he ruins everything with his words. – That’s how I am. / – Sir! So? (Dad, shh) He says he isn’t good at expressing things, but I’d like to hear that he loves me. Sure. What’s so hard about that? I want Mom to support me no matter what I do. I do cheerleading at school. – Cheerleading? / – At school? She says, “It’s such a waste of time. Study instead.” But that’s how she relieves stress. That’s my way of dealing with my life. Sir. Your daughter wants to hear you say you love her. Can you do that for her? Yes. Can you please tell her that here? She wants you to speak nicely to her. (Awkward) (Feeling awkward, too) Yeongchae. I haven’t done this because I’m not good at expressing my love. I am sorry. I’ll try to be a better dad. Yeongchae, I love you. (That’s what she wanted to hear) She seems so happy. Look at your daughter, sir. The color just came back to her face. She looks more lively. What would you like to tell your daughter? Don’t try to burden yourself with the concerns of the future. We’ll take care of your brothers. Just focus on achieving your dream. Prepare the switch. Minsang, is it a concern or not? Once this is aired, you will get lots of compliments from others. That’ll raise your spirits. Father and Ha-eon should avoid going outside. Don’t walk out to the main streets. It’s a concern. I think it’s a concern. I think it’s a concern. I don’t think it’s a concern. If you think it’s a concern, press the button. (What does the audience think?) 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Please stop. Please show us the result. Did they get over 100 votes out of 200? Many people pressed the button. It’s shocking for Mom. (They got 114 votes)

100 thoughts on “Her pain was hidden behind her smile..[Hello Counselor ENG,THA/2018.9.17]

  1. teenagers are like this when they tell you their smallest problem and they still treated it as a joke or saying that they have it much more harder than them, teenagers will never tell their future problem to their parents anymore. its hard. why do parents like to compare….

  2. I’m sorry that’s all we want to hear rather than 100 theories about insert problem or how we are still wrong. I’m sorry,that’s all

  3. I can relate to this so much. I'm in 10th grade and I have to go to school and dugsi and take care of my baby brother for the whole my mom is at school (5 hrs) but I can tell my mom of sick of it all because I know she has her problems and their far worse than mine.

  4. Cheerleading, she had bright smile and wanted to suicide, such a waste 😭😭😭😭😭 she's so kind, mature and cute as hell, agree? This is why i always want 1 kid in my future

  5. Im 6 years suffering in depression, anxiety and anger management since 9th grade (14years old) and it was hard . I see her as a brave woman at least she manage to tell her mom that its hard for her, and she just want to die. Im keeping everything in me.

  6. but atleast the mother acknowledged her child enough to care for her and bring her to a counselor show….. there are some parents that dont care whether their child has depression, and just do what they please. this mom actually cares.

  7. Her story hit a little too close to home I hope things are resolved for her she deserves a lot of love & happiness ❤️

  8. It would have been great to see Bang Chan or Han as guests, simply because I feel like they know about depression more than other idols.

  9. She is like me but i dont have a dad. Im 13. My brother is almost two months. My mom doesnt have a job. But the only reason im taking care of my brother is because she is smoking all day. Im not at school till 8 but as soon as i get home at 3 i watch him till 10 or more. My bed time is 8:30. 9:30 at the latest. She wont even apply that anymore. Shes always going off about how she doesnt wasnt to take care of him and she wanted to abort us. I honestly want to kill myself because my mother wanted to kill me herself so whats the difference. If im dead im dead arent i…

  10. 🙁 poor girl, those arent her responsibilitys, they shoud not rely on her with that. She should worry about her daugther as she does with her husband, right now more 🙁

  11. I can see a lot of myself in her, I’ve always been a highly empathetic person that puts others before myself. A little over two years ago when I had depression and started getting counseling I realized some very important things and most of all that it’s not healthy to always put others before myself, that I should love myself first. Now I can wholeheartedly say that I love myself and know myself, I’m really proud of myself. I started sobbing while watching this because I know how she feels, it’s really suffocating. I hope that she recovers from her depression and finds her passions and dreams in life <3

  12. ugh her parents remind me of mine and i am 27 years old that hates relationships and having kids cuz its too much responsibility

  13. I really undestand her.
    I'm 18, and I have three younger siblings, the younger of them is 18 months. I babysit him, I do chores and sometimes I really feel tired of everything, but at same time I undestand my mother because she is almost completely alone and I'm her only help. My two sisters are too young to babysit him well and my father says often that I don't do anything to help and this really hurt me, because I always try to give a help..
    I really understand her, I don't have depression, but I suffer of bad anxiety and I constantly have the fear that something bad happen to my siblings..

  14. What showed me how much the sister takes care of the baby is she was the one who immediately went to the stage to get the baby…the parents didn’t do that. Wow! He’s so adorable, I must say.

  15. I'm on her positions right now sometime it feht so havy I cried alone alot I think it's my own fault Cuz I always show them my strongest side even tho deep inside I'm so weak I thought being adult will make easy but Im wrong it's became more harder 😔😔

  16. I relate to this so much lmao. My mom was sick or mostly feel unwell, so i need to take care of my sister and brother (he was just 4years old) also now, next month my mom going to give birth to a baby girl again lmao

  17. ngl i started crying when i heard the daughter she's so sweet and considering, i could relate a bit too and it really hurt, i hope she's doing better now

  18. it’s kinda true though, since my parents have a really hard time at work and face their own troubles, i don’t want to burden them with my problems too. so i don’t tell anyone anything.

  19. Totally can relate. I take care of all 4 of my brothers and sister. I still take depression pills to this day. Its you who wanted children, they are not my children. Why do i have to take care of them?

  20. This is exactly the reason why I double check people. Everytime I see a person smiling, I just wonder what's truly hiding in that beautiful smile. Most sad depressed people are the ones that makes you smile, laugh and more, then the next day they'll be extra silent, if you'll ask 'why are you sad?' they'll just say the same lie over and over again 'I'm fine'. 'Why are you said?' 'What happend?' 'Are you okay?' 'Are you fine?' or etc is really my hates questions or phrase in the whole wild world, because you would never know if someone is listing or not and if they do lie about it, you'll feel so sad and dumb and guilty that you didn't recognise it at first.
    I really hate it when parents say that I also have a hard time or so, I hate it when parents say that I went through much thank you, the generations are different now and everyone nows it, there are now more teenagers or kids getting depressed, they (parents) should've at least listen to what their kids says.

  21. I am surprised that she how she talked for the whole time without crying because during depression u become so weak mentally that u don't have control over ur emotions keep it up she is a strong girl

  22. That daughter is look like me.. I also solve my problem alone bcs i know that my mother also have her own problem.. And then thats become a habit to me.. Like i always feel alone, lonely and shy ppl

  23. This girl really has a kind heart and i understand her pain. Just i see my problems in a different view, i have seen my sis verbally abuse my mother for 9 to 10 years and she always blames her depression on my mom who has for 9 years called every psychiatrist and help center for her possible getting everything she needs and wants but she was and isn't grateful and it's obvious my sis always says "you have done nothing for me" "you are the one who got me depression" "you dont love me, i hope i die infront of you so that you know what you did wrong" and a lot of other things which my english isn't broad enough for yet.

    My mother had and still has depression. At first it was because she came in another land and wasnt close to her mother anymore and then becoming a parent, then my sister outed to be in depression. I was there when my mom came to me and blamed herself for her being like that. For 10 years i have seen my mom cry and blame herself for the way my sister turned out. I was mostly on my own because my sister was in depression and she needed extra care. I was 5 at the time so imagine how it must've felt for me to see my mom blame herself and cry infront of me, but i understood and for 10 years i had raised myself. I also got a younger brother 5 years later, the two years they had time. And it was filled again but this time with my sister and at the time my baby brother. Whenever i needed attentiom at times my sister seemed to purposely hurt herself so she got attention. Some might say i am overreacting but seriously she was 2 years clear and whenever i went to my parents while i needed attention which was at the very most 20 times a year she went upstairs while looking like she wanted to hurt me and hurt herself. Every single time.

    Yeah that was my story, The thing i wanted to say is that it's not always the parents fault. My sister did all this because she was jealous of me. A child who was 4-5 years at the time, i was just litterally out of my baby years. She even told me myself, as long as you are around i will continue this. A 23 year old said that to a fricking 15 year old. She's still living in our parents home as an adult while i probrally will be moving out at 16-17.

  24. i really cried by watching this video, she is such a good daughter who helped in all works but didn't say her pain because she know how hardness to her mom….. but any parent should talk to their children friendly to ask whether they feeling any uncomfortable or feeling any stress…….. so that they know minimum about children……… she will have really bright future……..

  25. You shouldnt play the "I suffered more" card to a child. It would affect them deeply. They would think that their problem isn't important or its too shallow that they feel like they shouldn't complain about it at all.

  26. "I have health problems from my second pregnancy and Im also traumatized about my husband getting sick while my little girl is more of a mother than a sister to her brother… I WILL HAVE ANOTHER BABY"

  27. i think this problem is not solved unless and until they hire a nanny at least until the child grows up to be 1 year of age…

  28. Oml i hate it when some parents just say"oh! We suffered more then you !(some parents don't be offended pls)
    In that moment i will just snap and become that devil himself i'd say "YEAH YOU DID BUT HOW BOUT US CHILDREN WE DO!AND YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT WE FEEL !WHAT WE SEE YOU IT FEELS LIKE SO SHUT UP AND JUST LISTEN !" *sigh*sorry i just need to get that out parents think like they know every thing even if they don't and i hate that…parent job is to comfort& and raise chilldren not to lower their child's self-esteem and this is a serious topic just not hearing children's problems could be extremly painfull in the end because it feels like now one is going to understand them and some even committed you know the s word

  29. I recently started working I'm on my feet for five hours. I take a bus and walk to my house I'm tired. Once my mom comes home she can't even hear me say I'm tired from my mouth cause she gets angry. So now our latest fight is about me not talking to her I've never been able to open enough with my mom cause she always compares her struggles with mine.

  30. I always hope that the protagonist and their family also read these comments on this youtube video, because these comments are more knowledgeable than in the show itself. (but Thanks Hello Counselor to brought this problem up). Buttttt, THIS IS ABSOLUTELY A CONCERNNNNNNNNNNNN. And yeah, listen people, never compare problems. Every problem has its own weight on each person. For you maybe it's not a big deal, but not for them…… (this is credible, bc I'm in psychology major so I study this, this is one of the way of talking with a person who share their problem w you). I can't watch this, reading comments, this problem is too much for me bc I suffer from the same problem too. But my parents changed tho 😊

  31. I just feeled that kid that hiw wheb you feel when u are diagnosed with depression and you're always thinking that i'm wanting to die and always cry in nights so its really hard to be diagnosed with it because you can't easily find medicine to those.

  32. The daughter says that she doesnt get enough sleep at night bcause of the baby, then whats the responsibility of the parents? Its not the daughter's baby, its the parents'!!!

  33. this is not maturity. she may be mature, but not seeking pain because of guilt when she has depression, and just going with it all on her own, is not mature. it is really bad and will only make her so depressed that one day she'll have a breaking point and wont be able to do anything else than lie in bed. stop calling it mature or responsible because it isn't. also, it definitly isn't mature or responsible that she has to act like a mother. she is a child, not a fucking slave.

  34. The fact that I can relate to this just makes me more sad. I had to drop out of school to look after my niece. I was only 16 and had to look after an infant like it's my own when my sister went to work. Living in a room always looking after a baby really sometimes messes with your mind and I feel like it is one of the reasons why I have to take med for my anxiety and depression to even fall asleep. It's been 4 years already and it keeps getting worse. I hope ppl out there understands that just because a child smiles and tells you everything is fine doesn't mean it's fine.

  35. She really needs a therapist.. that ain't good..
    She is having a depression.. she even said she wants to end her life.. I am concerned…

  36. It's weird how we don't get treated the way we want to. I have had several mental breakdowns in front of my mum, saying the most worrying stuff and she just lectures me. She calls me an ungrateful brat because after everything I have (shelter, food, clothes etc) I'm still not happy. That's not the point, I've been dealing with so much crap lately and I don't even know the cause of it. My mum threatens me, saying that she will take me to the doctors and make them give me anti depressants if I don't change. How am I supposed to change? Every single time, its like I'm being told to bottle up my feelings because I'll end up ruining my reputation. I'm so different, I get treated differently, why is it so hard to be happy? I really don't see the point in living if I can't learn how to act the way I should. I really am close to ending it because it's fucking painful and I just hate it.

  37. HEY
    really, a lot of parents make these mistakes. Comparing your earlier life to the current life of your children is just one BIG mistake. My own parents have done so and are still even doing it , and guess what , IT DOESN'T SOLVE ANYTHING .
    Oh , you worked on the fields when you were little ? Oh , life was so hard for you and your child has it easier ?
    Hey, guess what , life doesn't revolve around you and life's not that unfair to just get a whole lot easier the moment yours is done. Just because you've harvested some crops doesn't mean that your child has to suffer and suck it. Honestly , to me, when parents do stuff like this , it kinda just feels like a child is trying to raise a child, throwing temper tantrums, saying that what they did was better and harder than what the other did. Please, when your daughter/son comes to you and tells you about their problems , dont shake it off with a " oh , when I was your age I did this and that and it still turned out fine" , realise that your child is living its own life and has lived under different circumstances than what you had lived under. And they need help and support to tackle them , not just a grunt that tells them that you're stronger and they're weak. Just a small hug, any kind of support can make them feel a whole lot better and I'm speaking from experience.
    And this is not just something parents do, it's adults or any other age group that's at least a century older than you.
    Having my big sister tell me that she did all this and that when she was my age , to me , a 9 year old child at that time , was not a big support when I asked her on how to do something no one's ever thought me before .
    we don't need to work on the field anymore, most of us have to handle the peer pressure that comes from this society , find jobs that get less as time passes and just succeed in life,which is getting harder. PLEASE UNDERSTAND US.

  38. i have taken depression tests many times , and the results always shows that i'm depressed , even my counselor at school once called my mother to seek for professional help . but my mother never acknowledge it , instead she would say things like , i'm being weak , and she had worse when she was my age . it got me thinking that i got no one to talk to . whenever i tried to talk to my close friends , i thought that i'm a trouble for them . i tried commit suicide for 2 times now and i failed . now i can't wait to study abroad and leave my family , because i know that's what they want . i'm really tired living in an abusive family…

  39. Just because their are people that have suffered more than you doesn't mean that you disregard your own suffering and feelings.

  40. DAMN who's watching in 2019??

    guess it's only me then….

    and thank goodness my father is good in expressing both in words and in action!!

  41. Being the oldest daughter is difficult and tiresome.. Because you become the second mother of the family and when your mother is not around, you automatically carry her responsibility. There are times you feel so exhausted but you can't complain because they think you are being rebellious.. There are times you want to cry but you can't because you have so many things to do… That is how being the oldest daughter in the family. You carry alot of responsibilities at young age that will force you to be more mature compare with your age group…

  42. My parents: "Do this/that."

    Me: "I''m tired/ it''s to hard. Can I do it later?"

    My parents: " In our old days when we were your age we worked twice as hard but we never complained. So why are you complaining."

    Me: "Nevermind, i'll do it.."

    But, honestly I was actually tired. Just because I'm a girl or I'm smiling doesn't mean it''s hard on me too. I have school and that is already stressful enough but I wouldn''t complaing. But when I would get home, I had to do my chores and take care of my younger sibling. Along with that I had school work. Sometimes I would even had to stay up to finish my hw. People might think school is easy but as your getting into other grades it becomes hard. We get more classes then usual so we work twice as hard too. I just wanted to point this out because parents sometimes don't get "school" is hard too. But to anyone who is struggling on this same problem. Stay strong! Fighting!

  43. I don't know what to say.. I can feel how hard it is for the daughter. She want to help them because she care a lot about her parents, but heard their parents said something like that to her, hurt me. Because she always help them, they think she enjoy it and depend on her a lot, expecting to her a lot. The daughter is also a human, she just 16 years old, what do you expect???No one want to hear her felling and at least say "Good work, thanks for helping".

  44. i feel like this girl's story is the same as mine. My mom takes care of her grandkids and I have to help her out most of the time. After school ends, I have to hurried back home to look after them. It's tiring, my sister has 3 kids and two of them were babies. I feel her because it's hard since you have hard time at school and home too. Rooting for her so she could become a successful cheerleader!

  45. Beautiful girl inside outside, I really want to hug her 😭❤️I wish she and his family always healthy and happy 💕

  46. Wow imagine the baby when he grow up and realized since he just alive he caused his older sister have depression and your mom got weaker. I wonder how he would feel when he grow up?

  47. Parent: puts on a lullaby
    Baby: cries
    Parent: why won’t u sleep
    Baby: still cries
    Sister: puts on pop music
    Baby: sleeps

  48. does anyone have a english copy of the classmate counselling checklist or some sort. i think i badly need one. As I am often lethargic even though I sleep for long hours (i think it is called hypersomnia; I haven't got myself tested tho) unmotivated, cries myself to sleep

  49. Once she said that when she doing the cheerleading at school but her mom said that it a waste of time I feel her….
    My mom even swear at me once I try to release my stress by singing too😢 she told me the same as her mom “ it a waste of time study instead”

  50. i feel her alot since we got the same problem and age. but i would like to praise her for being capable to tell her mom about her problems and came out to this show. parents shouldnt be comparing their problems with their child. of course they were having hard times and do many jobs when they were younger. but us nowadays kids also have feelings. the education requirement during this generation are ridiculous. its a good thing that she really cares about her family

    im just stating my points and views as a millenial kids with depression. i hope that our voices will be heard more by the older generation. i kindly hoping that anyone reading this will changed their peespective about teenagers. WE ARE NOT A BUNCH OF SPOILED BRAT THAT ONLY KNOW TO WHINE

  51. damn ren really just said it's not a concern and brushed it off just like that? As someone diagnosed with depression, It makes me feel bad i even admired him and supported him at one point. I don't even know why I watch this show sometimes.. they were really so ignorant that they thought an hour of being on a variety show and getting compliments would cure her depression? ew

  52. Cannot stand adults who reproduce when they are not capable of taking care of their children… Or even themselves. They want to have kids but expect their eldest daughter to take care most of the time. What a joke. The baby cried but both parents can’t be bothered. Only the daughter was anxious to coax him. They are lucky to have a sensible daughter.

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